Recently, a friend of mine booked a room at the Heartbreak Hotel. I'd need both hands and a foot to count the number of strikeouts he's had over the past three and a half years. The girl who gave him the boot this time did it pretty harshly. He and I wound up having a late night AIM conversation about it. A few years ago I would have done everything in my power to fix his love life for him. This time, I knew that the best thing I could have done was listen. So I did, and he thanked me for it by telling me that I was one of the best friends he's ever had. I do what I can for people, but I've learned to step back and let them handle their own lives. When they need me, I'll be there.
He asked me something that bothered me though, about why girls date assholes. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that the vast majority of my girl friends have, at one time or another, been with someone that made the rest of us wonder "What the fuck does she see in him?" I tried to reassure him that the nice guys always win...but is that true? How many frogs of the asshole variety do people file through before they pick a guy who is truly worth their time?
I could try to send out a plea to all the females of the world, begging them to remember all the nice guys out there who would give anything to be with them...but I know better. I can't change the system, and whatever it is that makes perfectly intelligent girls fall for total assholes, it's unstoppable. It's a shame that it will keep leaving nice people in its wake.
